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If
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or
if you’re already separated,
or
if one or both of you are contemplating leaving,
or
if you’re confused and don’t know what to do---
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You Can Save Your Relationship Even If
You Think It’s Too Late, Even If You Fear its Beyond Saving and Even If You’re
The Only One Who Wants To Save It. I’ll Show You Exactly What To Say And Do To
Save Your Relationship And To Keep Your Family Together …
Dear Friend,
You may be
afraid that it’s too late to save your relationship. You may think it’s
hopeless. You may think it’s past saving.
You may feel
that you’ve tried everything to save your relationship and nothing that you’ve
done is working.
You’re fighting
for your relationship. You want it to work but you know what you’re doing isn’t
working. Your heart feels broken. It’s like you’re in a bad dream waiting to
wake up.
Perhaps, you’re
hoping, beyond hope, that there really is a way to save your relationship and
that you can learn what to say and do that will actually save it.
I Specialize in Saving Romantic
Relationships That Are in Crisis:
I have been a
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. I specialize in saving romantic relationships
that are in crisis.
It’s my experience
that most love relationships that end, do so unnecessarily. They end for the
wrong reasons. In most cases, if even one partner in a relationship had gotten
the right kind of knowledge and had brought that knowledge back into the
relationship, that one partner could actually have stopped the breakup.
It’s my mission
to teach you what it takes to save your relationship.
Over the years
I’ve developed strategies to help my clients save their relationships. Those
same strategies that work for my clients can also work for you.
If your relationship isn’t working why
bother coming to counseling to try to save it?
You may already
feel that your relationship isn’t working for you. What you don’t know is if,
with my help you can both save it and make it work for both of you.
It’s FREE to find out if I can help you
save your relationship
and make it work.
Call me NOW for
your FREE initial phone consultation.
Fred Talisman
MFT
Which of the following describes your
relationship from your perspective or your partner’s?
- You cheated on me. How can I get
past the hurt and feeling of betrayal and should I? . How can I ever trust you again?
- I’m ready to leave the relationship
but I really don’t want to. I just don’t know how to make it work for me.
- I feel worn out by all the bickering
and fighting.
- I love you but I no longer feel in
love with you.
- I no longer feel attracted to you.
- I’m sick and tired of all the verbal
abuse, criticism, lack of respect and putdowns.
- I feel overwhelmed with the idea
that our relationship is on the rocks, and I don’t know what to do.
- I’m staying in the relationship for
the kid’s sake but I’m just going through the motions.
- I fear that our love has been eroded
to the point of no return.
- I’m tired of doing all of the work
in the relationship.
- We have so little affection, I feel
more like we’re roommates.
- I’ve only been staying in the
relationship for the kids but I’m no longer sure that’s best for them and
its sure not working for me.
- We have no way to work things out.
We keep having the same fights over and over again. Nothing ever gets
resolved.
- We’re at a crossroads and if we
can’t find a way to make it work, I have no other choice but to break up
with you.
- I’ve tried everything to make this
work and nothing has helped. This is my last hope.
- I asked you to go to couple
counseling with me and you wouldn’t go. Now its
too late.
- We tried couple counseling and it
didn’t work.
- We have very little in common and
few common interests.
- We’re already separated and it’s not
getting any better.
- I feel like whatever I do isn’t good
enough for you. I feel like I’m in a no-win situation.
- I no longer feel attractive to my
partner.
- I don’t feel heard or understood by
you.
- We each have a lot of baggage that
weighs heavily on the relationship and sometimes that baggage feels
insurmountable. It creates fighting and mistrust.
- We don’t have a way to say difficult
things that doesn’t lead to fighting.
- I feel sad and mad because you turn
on me. You twist my words and attack me.
- I feel overwhelmed, numb and
hopeless.
- I get tense before you come home
because I know you’ll find fault with me.
- We’re going through the motions of
being in a relationship, but we’re getting more and more distant.
- The relationship hasn’t been
emotionally fulfilling to me for a long time.
- I fell in love with someone else.
But, you and I have kids together. I’m confused. I don’t know what to do.
- You lied to me. I don’t trust them.
- You said you were unhappy and wanted
to split up. Then, you changed your mind. I don’t know what to believe and
I no longer feel safe in this relationship with you.
What It Takes To Save Your Relationship:
Some people get
to the point of ending their relationship because of a single incident like
finding out their partner cheated on them. For others, its been a long slow
build up of hurts, frustrations, anger, resentments, disappointments, and let
downs.
What it takes to
create a turning point in your relationship is not about having the secret magic words that will instantly turn
things around.
It’s more like having the ability to open a
combination lock. To have all of the correct #s and to be able to dial them
into the lock in the correct order to open it up.
When you work
with me you’re getting the benefit of all of my years of training and
experience in discovering what it takes to
Save Your Relationship and Make it Work for Both of You.
If you say or do the wrong thing, even
once, it can undo all of the progress you’re making. Therefore its also critical to know what not to do. As part of our
work together I’ll show you:
- How you can understand why what
you’ve been doing isn’t working and may actually be making things worse.
- Why making claims or promises to
your partner like “I’ve changed or I’ll never do it again” actually builds
greater distrust, anger and/or resentment in your partner.
- Why trying to prove your point
actually works against you, pushes your partner further away and makes
your partner get more upset.
- Why getting things off your chest or
trying to talk things out when one or both of you is upset is virtually
guaranteed to make things worse, and what to do instead.
- The trigger words that push your partner’s
buttons and guarantee you’re headed for a fight.
I will show you what it takes to Save Your Relationship step by step including exactly what
to say and do:
- How to rebuild trust and get another
chance if you’ve cheated on your partner. What to say and do if your
partner says “I’m no longer in love with you.”
- How to get your partner to recommit
to an exclusive monogamous relationship with you when your partner says
they’ve fallen in love with someone else.
- How to rebuild trust with your
partner if your partner has already given you another chance and, you
broke your word again.
- How to rebuild trust when your
partner feels that you’ve lied to them and they say they don’t know what
to believe anymore.
- How to get back the loving feelings
when your partner is saying “I love you but I’m no longer in love with
you.
- How you can put an end to mean, angry,
hurtful communication. How to never again have another fight or argument,
without having to give in. (If you follow my directions precisely, this
ALWAYS works).
- How you can get out your frustrations and
upsets with NO consequences to the relationship and without hurting your
partner’s feelings.
- What to do when your partner is
saying “I’m sick and tired of all the verbal abuse, criticism, lack of
respect and putdowns.” How to be the positive, loving supportive partner
that you want to be for them to to stay
consistent in doing that.
- What to do when your partner is
saying “we have so little affection, I feel more like we’re roommates.”
How to get back the affection, romance and passion. How to get back your
emotional and physical intimacy together.
- What to do if your partner is
saying, “I’ve only been staying in the relationship for the kids but I’m
no longer sure that’s best for them and its sure not working for me.” How
to be more that just parents together and to also be a loving, happy
couple together.
- What to do when your partner is
saying “we have no way to work things out. We keep having the same fights
over and over again. Nothing ever gets resolved.” How to actually get
things resolved to your mutual satisfaction.
- What to do if your partner says “we
have very little in common and few common interests.” How to start
creating more common interests and to build from there.
- How to get back together and make it
work if you’re already separated and it’s not getting any better.
- What to do if your partner is saying
“I feel like whatever I do isn’t good enough for you. I feel like I’m in a
no-win situation.” How to make them feel consistently accepted,
appreciated and supported by you.
- How to get back on track if your
partner is saying “I don’t feel heard or understood or listened to by
you.”
- How to create a feeling of
cooperation between the two of you when your partner says “I feel sad and
mad because you turn on me, twist my words and attack me and make
everything my fault.”
- How to get your partner to try again
when they say “I feel overwhelmed, numb and hopeless.”
- What to do if your partner is saying
“I get tense before you come home because I know you’ll find fault with
me.” How to get back to looking
forward to and enjoying spending time with each other.
- How to rebuild trust and safety when
you’ve told your partner that you were unhappy and wanted to split up.
Then, you changed your mind and they now say they don’t know what to
believe and they no longer feel safe in this relationship with you.
- I
will also show you:
How you can both reconnect to the love that brought you together in the first place. - How you can stop being reactive and
being controlled by the other person’s negativity.
- How you can turn around the
negativity.
- How you can be a better listener and
make your partner feel listened to, understood and accepted.
- How you can create mutual emotional
support in your relationship.
- How you can each stop sacrificing
and making unwanted compromises and instead have the ability to work out
agreements that work for both of you.
- How you can stop being jealous and
pushing your partner away with your jealousy.
- How you can keep parents, in-laws,
other relatives, friends and/or co-workers from having a negative impact
on your relationship.
- How you can get and give consistent
emotional supportive.
- How you prevent any (further)
cheating in the relationship.
- What you can do when you and your
partner are very different from each other and have completely different
interests.
- The one way to speak to your partner
that will cause your partner to open up to you, be more cooperative and
positive and really hear what you have to say.
Is it too late to save your relationship?
If your partner
is still willing to communicate with you, even if it’s only by phone or e-mail,
it’s possible that, with the right tools, you can save your relationship.
I know I can
help you as long as you take the next step.
Take care,
Fred R. Talisman MFT
P.S. Will coming
to me for counseling actually help you to save your relationship and make it
work?
That’s my goal. I
have helped countless people save their relationships using the exact same
strategies and tools that you’ll get when you work with me I get calls from
people years later thanking me for those strategies and telling me how many
happy years it’s been since I helped them get past their near breakup.
Many of those
people, when they first called to get my help were convinced that their
relationship was beyond saving and that they were probably wasting their time
even to try.
You know that
what you’ve been doing to make your relationship work IS NOT WORKING.
All you can do
is to do your best to save your
relationship. However, doing your best is not only based on your depth and
consistency of commitment to do your best.
It’s also based
on getting the best counseling you can find and through that counseling to
learn the skills and strategies to save your relationship and make it work.
You’re getting my best skills and strategies to save your relationship based on
my years of training and more importantly my 30 years of finding out exactly
what works and what doesn’t work to help a person save their relationship.
It’s FREE to find out if I can help you
save your relationship and make it work.
Call me NOW for
your FREE initial phone consultation.
Fred Talisman
MFT
What others have to say
about Fred Talisman MFT
“How do you think of two
hours? A long commute? A quarter of some people's work day?
The typical length of a
Fred Talisman, a
licensed psychotherapist of over thirty one years, thinks of two hour in a
totally unique way. It's the time it takes him to save, and revive a dying
relationship. That's right. Two hours.
How does he do it? Well he's
not the stereotypical therapist who sits back and says "uh huh" and
watches couples get more and more polarized as they further talk themselves out
of relationship by giving their laundry list of built up hurts and resentments.
If a couple is drowning
, he's the lifeguard and he jumps in and does whatever it takes to save them,
to buy them a second chance, a turning point.
I think he's a brilliant
strategist. He uses his strategies to turn around years of pain. He uses them
to defuse years of tension. He uses them to get the couple reconnected to the
love and magic that brought them together in the first place. He demonstrates
to them a path, a hope, a vision of the possibility of actually thriving
together, and he does it in under two hours.
To me, Fred is The
Relationship Wizard. His ability to save dying relationships are
his brilliance and magic. He forged it out of the heartbreak he witnessed
countless times in his early years as a traditionally trained marriage
counselor experiencing over and over how that training was grossly inadequate
in assisting him to save couples in crisis. He's a practical man. He knows from
hard experience that by the time most couples go to a relationship counselor
one or both may be ready to end the relationship and the window of opportunity
to save that relationship is now, or never.
When it comes to saving
a relationship he's a bulldog. If there is a way to do it, he won't let go
until he finds it. I think his strategies are a gift to couples.”
Joel Roberts, Former
Prime Time Host, KABC Radio, Los Angeles, California
Fred R. Talisman M.F.T. Director #8924
CA State Licensed Psychotherapist for over 31 years
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Fred Talisman
MFT
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