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We Are Committed to Help You Get Lasting Results For Your Problems In the Fewest Number of Sessions

 

If your partner wants to end your romantic relationship,

or if youíre already separated,

or if one or both of you are contemplating leaving,

or if youíre confused and donít know what to do---

THIS IS FOR YOU

 

You Can Save Your Relationship Even If You Think Itís Too Late, Even If You Fear its Beyond Saving and Even If Youíre The Only One Who Wants To Save It. Iíll Show You Exactly What To Say And Do To Save Your Relationship And To Keep Your Family Together Ö

 

 

Dear Friend,

 

You may be afraid that itís too late to save your relationship. You may think itís hopeless. You may think itís past saving.

 

You may feel that youíve tried everything to save your relationship and nothing that youíve done is working.

 

Youíre fighting for your relationship. You want it to work but you know what youíre doing isnít working. Your heart feels broken. Itís like youíre in a bad dream waiting to wake up.

 

Perhaps, youíre hoping, beyond hope, that there really is a way to save your relationship and that you can learn what to say and do that will actually save it.

 

I Specialize in Saving Romantic Relationships That Are in Crisis:

I have been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. I specialize in saving romantic relationships that are in crisis.

 

Itís my experience that most love relationships that end, do so unnecessarily. They end for the wrong reasons. In most cases, if even one partner in a relationship had gotten the right kind of knowledge and had brought that knowledge back into the relationship, that one partner could actually have stopped the breakup.

 

Itís my mission to teach you what it takes to save your relationship.

 

Over the years Iíve developed strategies to help my clients save their relationships. Those same strategies that work for my clients can also work for you.

 

If your relationship isnít working why bother coming to counseling to try to save it?

You may already feel that your relationship isnít working for you. What you donít know is if, with my help you can both save it and make it work for both of you.

 

Itís FREE to find out if I can help you save your relationshipand make it work.

Call me NOW for your FREE initial phone consultation.

Fred Talisman MFT

South Bay: 310374-0372

West Side: 310†† 827-7986

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Which of the following describes your relationship from your perspective or your partnerís?

  • You cheated on me. How can I get past the hurt and feeling of betrayal and should I? .How can I ever trust you again?
  • Iím ready to leave the relationship but I really donít want to. I just donít know how to make it work for me.
  • I feel worn out by all the bickering and fighting.
  • I love you but I no longer feel in love with you.
  • I no longer feel attracted to you.
  • Iím sick and tired of all the verbal abuse, criticism, lack of respect and putdowns.
  • I feel overwhelmed with the idea that our relationship is on the rocks, and I donít know what to do.
  • Iím staying in the relationship for the kidís sake but Iím just going through the motions.
  • I fear that our love has been eroded to the point of no return.
  • Iím tired of doing all of the work in the relationship.
  • We have so little affection, I feel more like weíre roommates.
  • Iíve only been staying in the relationship for the kids but Iím no longer sure thatís best for them and its sure not working for me.
  • We have no way to work things out. We keep having the same fights over and over again. Nothing ever gets resolved.
  • Weíre at a crossroads and if we canít find a way to make it work, I have no other choice but to break up with you.
  • Iíve tried everything to make this work and nothing has helped. This is my last hope.
  • I asked you to go to couple counseling with me and you wouldnít go. Now its too late.
  • We tried couple counseling and it didnít work.
  • We have very little in common and few common interests.
  • Weíre already separated and itís not getting any better.
  • I feel like whatever I do isnít good enough for you. I feel like Iím in a no-win situation.
  • I no longer feel attractive to my partner.
  • I donít feel heard or understood by you.
  • We each have a lot of baggage that weighs heavily on the relationship and sometimes that baggage feels insurmountable. It creates fighting and mistrust.
  • We donít have a way to say difficult things that doesnít lead to fighting.
  • I feel sad and mad because you turn on me. You twist my words and attack me.
  • I feel overwhelmed, numb and hopeless.
  • I get tense before you come home because I know youíll find fault with me.
  • Weíre going through the motions of being in a relationship, but weíre getting more and more distant.
  • The relationship hasnít been emotionally fulfilling to me for a long time.
  • I fell in love with someone else. But, you and I have kids together. Iím confused. I donít know what to do.
  • You lied to me. I donít trust them.
  • You said you were unhappy and wanted to split up. Then, you changed your mind. I donít know what to believe and I no longer feel safe in this relationship with you.

 

What It Takes To Save Your Relationship:

 

Some people get to the point of ending their relationship because of a single incident like finding out their partner cheated on them. For others, its been a long slow build up of hurts, frustrations, anger, resentments, disappointments, and let downs.

 

What it takes to create a turning point in your relationship is not about having the secret magic words that will instantly turn things around.

 

Itís more like having the ability to open a combination lock. To have all of the correct #s and to be able to dial them into the lock in the correct order to open it up.

 

When you work with me youíre getting the benefit of all of my years of training and experience in discovering what it takes toSave Your Relationship and Make it Work for Both of You.

 

If you say or do the wrong thing, even once, it can undo all of the progress youíre making. Therefore its also critical to know what not to do. As part of our work together Iíll show you:

  • How you can understand why what youíve been doing isnít working and may actually be making things worse.
  • Why making claims or promises to your partner like ďIíve changed or Iíll never do it againĒ actually builds greater distrust, anger and/or resentment in your partner.
  • Why trying to prove your point actually works against you, pushes your partner further away and makes your partner get more upset.
  • Why getting things off your chest or trying to talk things out when one or both of you is upset is virtually guaranteed to make things worse, and what to do instead.
  • The trigger words that push your partnerís buttons and guarantee youíre headed for a fight.

 

 

I will show you what it takes to Save Your Relationship step by step including exactly what to say and do:

  • How to rebuild trust and get another chance if youíve cheated on your partner. What to say and do if your partner says ďIím no longer in love with you.Ē
  • How to get your partner to recommit to an exclusive monogamous relationship with you when your partner says theyíve fallen in love with someone else.
  • How to rebuild trust with your partner if your partner has already given you another chance and, you broke your word again.
  • How to rebuild trust when your partner feels that youíve lied to them and they say they donít know what to believe anymore.
  • How to get back the loving feelings when your partner is saying ďI love you but Iím no longer in love with you.
  • How you can put an end tomean, angry, hurtful communication. How to never again have another fight or argument, without having to give in. (If you follow my directions precisely, this ALWAYS works).
  • How you canget out your frustrations and upsets with NO consequences to the relationship and without hurting your partnerís feelings.
  • What to do when your partner is saying ďIím sick and tired of all the verbal abuse, criticism, lack of respect and putdowns.Ē How to be the positive, loving supportive partner that you want to be for them to to stay consistent in doing that.
  • What to do when your partner is saying ďwe have so little affection, I feel more like weíre roommates.Ē How to get back the affection, romance and passion. How to get back your emotional and physical intimacy together.
  • What to do if your partner is saying, ďIíve only been staying in the relationship for the kids but Iím no longer sure thatís best for them and its sure not working for me.Ē How to be more that just parents together and to also be a loving, happy couple together.††
  • What to do when your partner is saying ďwe have no way to work things out. We keep having the same fights over and over again. Nothing ever gets resolved.Ē How to actually get things resolved to your mutual satisfaction.
  • What to do if your partner says ďwe have very little in common and few common interests.Ē How to start creating more common interests and to build from there.
  • How to get back together and make it work if youíre already separated and itís not getting any better.
  • What to do if your partner is saying ďI feel like whatever I do isnít good enough for you. I feel like Iím in a no-win situation.Ē How to make them feel consistently accepted, appreciated and supported by you.
  • How to get back on track if your partner is saying ďI donít feel heard or understood or listened to by you.Ē
  • How to create a feeling of cooperation between the two of you when your partner says ďI feel sad and mad because you turn on me, twist my words and attack me and make everything my fault.Ē
  • How to get your partner to try again when they say ďI feel overwhelmed, numb and hopeless.Ē
  • What to do if your partner is saying ďI get tense before you come home because I know youíll find fault with me.ĒHow to get back to looking forward to and enjoying spending time with each other.
  • How to rebuild trust and safety when youíve told your partner that you were unhappy and wanted to split up. Then, you changed your mind and they now say they donít know what to believe and they no longer feel safe in this relationship with you.

 

 

  • I will also show you:
    How you can both reconnect to the love that brought you together in the first place.
  • How you can stop being reactive and being controlled by the other personís negativity.
  • How you can turn around the negativity.
  • How you can be a better listener and make your partner feel listened to, understood and accepted.
  • How you can create mutual emotional support in your relationship.
  • How you can each stop sacrificing and making unwanted compromises and instead have the ability to work out agreements that work for both of you.
  • How you can stop being jealous and pushing your partner away with your jealousy.
  • How you can keep parents, in-laws, other relatives, friends and/or co-workers from having a negative impact on your relationship.
  • How you can get and give consistent emotional supportive.
  • How you prevent any (further) cheating in the relationship.
  • What you can do when you and your partner are very different from each other and have completely different interests.
  • The one way to speak to your partner that will cause your partner to open up to you, be more cooperative and positive and really hear what you have to say.

 

Is it too late to save your relationship?

If your partner is still willing to communicate with you, even if itís only by phone or e-mail, itís possible that, with the right tools, you can save your relationship.

 

I know I can help you as long as you take the next step.

 

 

††††††††††††††††† Take care,

 

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†††††††††††††††††† Fred R. Talisman MFT

 

P.S. Will coming to me for counseling actually help you to save your relationship and make it work?

 

Thatís my goal. I have helped countless people save their relationships using the exact same strategies and tools that youíll get when you work with me I get calls from people years later thanking me for those strategies and telling me how many happy years itís been since I helped them get past their near breakup.

 

Many of those people, when they first called to get my help were convinced that their relationship was beyond saving and that they were probably wasting their time even to try.

 

You know that what youíve been doing to make your relationship work IS NOT WORKING.

 

All you can do is to do your best to save your relationship. However, doing your best is not only based on your depth and consistency of commitment to do your best.

 

Itís also based on getting the best counseling you can find and through that counseling to learn the skills and strategies to save your relationship and make it work. Youíre getting my best skills and strategies to save your relationship based on my years of training and more importantly my 30 years of finding out exactly what works and what doesnít work to help a person save their relationship.

 

Itís FREE to find out if I can help you save your relationship and make it work.

Call me NOW for your FREE initial phone consultation.

Fred Talisman MFT

South Bay: 310374-0372

West Side: 310†† 827-7986

 

What others have to say about Fred Talisman MFT

ďHow do you think of two hours? A long commute? A quarter of some people's work day? The typical length of a Hollywood movie?

Fred Talisman, a licensed psychotherapist of over thirty one years, thinks of two hour in a totally unique way. It's the time it takes him to save, and revive a dying relationship. That's right. Two hours.

How does he do it? Well he's not the stereotypical therapist who sits back and says "uh huh" and watches couples get more and more polarized as they further talk themselves out of relationship by giving their laundry list of built up hurts and resentments.

If a couple is drowning , he's the lifeguard and he jumps in and does whatever it takes to save them, to buy them a second chance, a turning point.

I think he's a brilliant strategist. He uses his strategies to turn around years of pain. He uses them to defuse years of tension. He uses them to get the couple reconnected to the love and magic that brought them together in the first place. He demonstrates to them a path, a hope, a vision of the possibility of actually thriving together, and he does it in under two hours.

To me, Fred is The Relationship Wizard. His ability to save dying relationships are his brilliance and magic. He forged it out of the heartbreak he witnessed countless times in his early years as a traditionally trained marriage counselor experiencing over and over how that training was grossly inadequate in assisting him to save couples in crisis. He's a practical man. He knows from hard experience that by the time most couples go to a relationship counselor one or both may be ready to end the relationship and the window of opportunity to save that relationship is now, or never.

When it comes to saving a relationship he's a bulldog. If there is a way to do it, he won't let go until he finds it. I think his strategies are a gift to couples.Ē

Joel Roberts, Former Prime Time Host, KABC Radio, Los Angeles, California

 

 

 

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Itís FREE to find out if I can help you save your relationship and make it work.

Call me NOW for your FREE initial phone consultation.

Fred Talisman MFT

South Bay: 310374-0372

West Side: 310†† 827-7986

 

 

 

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